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How to handle pre-wedding jitters?

|7/26/2021 Monday, 6:08 pm Philippine Time|

Hi there. I hope all is well with you.
It’s been raining for more than a week now. I am very much saddened with lots of places being flooded and washed-out due to the massive rainfall these days.
Stay safe and healthy always.

Going back to our topic, how to handle pre-wedding jitters? But before that first, let’s define wedding jitters. Is it normal? How can you tell that you are already having these feeling?

Here comes the bride and the groom! Congratulations💓💓

When planning for a wedding, there are lots of things that needed to be prepared. The wedding venue, the sponsors, guests, reception, souvenirs etc. And these can truly consumed so much of our energy both physical and mental. Pre-wedding jitters or also called as “cold feet” is a term characterized by a feeling of uncertainty around moving forward with your wedding. And yes it’s totally normal to feel this way, especially when you are of mixed excited and anxious on the coming of your wedding. I, myself is not excused to feel this, being hands-on on our wedding preparations and still thinking of the year-end work that I have to deliver, it really made me crazy. Pre-wedding jitters are normal, and I think my friends around me are the ones who actually told me that I’m having these pre-wedding jitters thing while my wedding is nearly coming. So here sharing to you my experience and how I deal with them.

The usual signs that I have encountered during these stage of having these pre-wedding jitters are as follows:
1. Overthinking about the things needed to be prepared for the wedding. I can say that planning your wedding ahead is really a factor to worry less and prepare more. Me and my fiancé, had been planning and preparing everything our wedding for 3 months. The first month of our preparation, we can say that we are doing really good. We have our excel template on the side which we update from time to time. That served as our checklist to things we need to buy and we need to have. We have the timeline, and the planning made us felt complacent that we can handle everything within three months. Everything has been manageable and we don’t have to hire for a wedding coordinator to prepare everything for us, we try to do it hands-on. Fast forward, I think 2 weeks left before our wedding, the feeling changes, we both started to feel unprepared, there are things that we don’t expect to happen and we really are not so prepared for those. We started to overthink, what if this will happen, what if the guests are not coming, etc. We are overthinking so much on things that can be simplified instead of being complicated. Suggest if you can plan ahead and settle everything ahead, then it will be better to avoid cramming that will lead to overthinking and stress.

2. You are reactive to your partner and easily to get annoyed on things. This is what I really hate the pre-wedding journey. That you get annoyed to your partner and be reactive especially on things that you don’t agree with. For 8 years++ that me and my fiancé have before settling down, we only have few times that we fight or disagree with each other. But during our pre-wedding preparations, we really have several times that we argue on things and don’t agree with them. My fiancé, who is now my hubby in due fairness cooperates a lot in the planning and I appreciate his patience when I’m in my moody side. He remains calm and understanding, but because he also actively suggest his ideas which sometimes I don’t agree, I get annoyed and react to him badly. I don’t really understand why I’m so reactive those times. But at the end of the day, I thank God for reminding me that the reason we are coming-up with our wedding is because I love my fiancé and the planning stage should not break us but should strengthen us together.

3. You are a cry-baby. This may sound so crazy and funny, but believe me it’s one. I feel like, oh what the heck, why that made me cry. I’m like a child that once I argue and I feel that I don’t get support, I cry. I think it’s because you’re getting very emotional, your wedding is coming and you are still thinking a lot of things, last resort would be to be a cry-baby. I think, there’s nothing wrong in crying. It’s OK to cry. It may even be beneficial to you. If you feel the need to cry, don’t hold back your tears as tears are a normal and it’s one of the healthy ways to express your emotion, thus, you have to let it out. Just please remember not to cry so much on the day before your wedding, you might have your eyebags coming out.

4. You are becoming perfectionist. Of course you won’t like any mess to happen in your wedding, thus, you would want everything to be perfect as possible. It’s a feeling like you are more concerned of what other people will say when it’s not like this, or like that, what if they will not like the food, what if the bridesmaid will not like their dress, the souvenirs should be useful or else the guest won’t take them etc. These are the things that will stress you more, instead of sticking to what has been planned you will always think the other way. Remember that you cannot please everyone, so just be who you are, the wedding should be more of what you and your partner would love how it will look like, and not of how others will think about it. It is supposed to be your day, and not their day.

5. You’re feeling nervous as your big day is coming. I think this is the most usual feeling especially for a woman. For me it’s a dream come true to be married with the man of your dreams but at the same time, it will really make you nervous to finally tie the knot and bid farewell from single life. Thinking that in the married life milestone you have to consider your spouse, you have to adjust from the usual things that you are used to then now it’s going to be of compromise and sacrifice. You are thinking what’s ahead for the both of you, it is going to work for you? Will it be worth it, or will it be for a long-lasting love.

How to handle pre-wedding jitters or cold feet?
Pre-wedding jitters are like uninvited guests at your wedding, these feelings will just come to you and you may can’t believe these are happening to you already. later on you will realize you’re hit by these. So it’s important that you know how to handle once you will feel the same way.

1. Think positively. Because there are things that we’re perfectly planned but won’t go as is, in whatever circumstances, think positively that everything will be ok. You are not supposed to stress yourself. Remember that you are about to celebrate your big day–that is your wedding day. Handle everything with positive thoughts and the good results will follow.

2. Listen to beautiful music and relax. Part of your positive spirit is your engagement to beautiful music and relaxing vibes. Listen to your favorite songs for good vibes and happy thoughts. It is very important to relax your mind, free-up toxicity and negativities.

3. Eat healthy, exercise and take some sleep. Healthy diet, exercise and good sleep are key to help yourself in good shape and camera ready to your wedding day pictorial. Aside from that, it is very important to stay healthy by taking healthy food, regular exercise and better sleep. According to National Sleep Foundation, guidelines advise that healthy adults need between 7 and 9 hours of sleep per night. With no doubt, these three are necessary to keep yourself sane and capable to handle the symptoms brought by pre-wedding jitters.

4. Talk with your partner and plan together. Communication is always necessary for both the bride and the groom in planning their wedding. When you are hands-on in coming-up the details of your wedding up to purchasing, contacting guests, and a lot more, then it will be really crazy. It’s going to be your initial test on how your relationship with each other is. Your patience must be tested, your ego, and your love for each other. I also experience this, where most of the time you have to consult and open up the things and details you want to work for your wedding. Communicate and discuss the things with each other as you plan together. The planning stage requires teamwork. Even if you will be hiring a wedding planner, you will still have to discuss with your partner your preferences and choices. It’s going to be exciting, I know you can make it. 🙂

5. Consult and ask for help from others. Sometimes, there are factors that will require the consultation of expert or more experienced people, then if you feel that you need one go on. Remember that it’s ok to ask for help. During our wedding planning, I remember how hesitant my fiancé is to ask for help to his family. Not financial help, but those legwork– picking up the flowers, contacting a supplier, booking a car rental etc. But when we tried opening to them that we still need help on other items, they were very grateful to help us and even sponsored and treated us on some of our expenses. Well, as I told you, don’t stress yourself, there are lots of people there who are open arms in helping.



I hope you have learned from me through these experiences and thoughts that I have. I know it’s now going to be that easy, but I know you can make it better. Congratulations on your coming wedding!

Lovelots and cheers,
Mira Rollenas-Ducusin

How to be a successful working wife?

Hi there. I hope everything is well with you. I’m, back again for goodies and sharings:) How are you?

I have a lot of things in my plate that I need to manage, most of those are work related. I think I got 80% work related and only 20% for my personal interests. But I am still happy. I felt God uses me to manage my time for my work and for my personal life. In fact, no matter how stressful the work is I still able to smile and hope that everything will be well.

Just me 💓💓🤩

In life, there will always be challenges towards success. By the way how do you define success? Because being able to go through our topic today which is how to be a successful working wife, is you have first to know from yourself how do you define success?

Well, we have different definitions of success, it varies from person to person.

Let me share you these definition of success from famous people:

For Richard Branson, the definition of successes isn’t having a private island or xxx billion net worth. Branson wrote that a truly successful person is someone who is happy.
“Too many people measure how successful they are by how much money they make or the people that they associate with. In my opinion, true success should be measured by how happy you are.”

However, for Oprah Winfrey success isn’t being known by just her first name or being one of the world’s wealthiest women, success to her is all about feeling fulfilled:
“…How to be used in the greater service to life. Ask this question, and the answer will be returned and rewarded to you with fulfillment, which is the major definition of success, to me.

For the 44th President of the united States, Barack Obama, success is define simpler: “For Barack Obama, success isn’t about how much money you make. It’s about the difference you make in people’s lives.”

Moreover, for the most prolific inventions in America, Thomas Edison, who invented a lot of patented inventions, and had much dedication and work ethics into his work, his definition of success was somewhat truthful as it is “Success is 1% inspiration, 99% perspiration.”

While for Bill Gates who is known to be the wealthiest person in the world when asked about his definition of success, he relates it to success in life by giving back and changing other people’s lives. According to him, “It is also nice to feel like you made a difference — inventing something or raising kids or helping people in need.”.”

If you will be asked how do you define success, what will your answer be? With the 5 definitions above, I am moved with defining success based on the happiness that a thing or a milestone gave me, on the other hand I also believe with Thomas Edison that success is 99% perspiration and 1% inspiration, but in my case I am redefining the percentages, mine is going to be 80% perspiration and 20% inspiration. I think in my case, in all the things that I do there are reasons behind it and so with other people as well.

What keeps me going is my family, I work for my family and for the good future of my family. The main reason is family. They are my inspiration, on the topmost of it is God who is the one who provides and makes all things possible and beautiful. Sometimes when I encounter problems, toxic people and tough challenges in life, and I may give up, I always go back to the reason why I am starting it for the first time?

This is me at work station at my stressful but hopeful days. I got pimples but I still manage to work 🙂 💕

It is really hard to manage everything together, as an adage says “You cannot serve two masters at the same time”. It’s like managing a household and working, or for the mothers out there taking care of the children while working away from home. It’s challenging! Sometimes you really need to give up something for something better. Take note, SOMETHING BETTER!!! That something better should be worthy of your time, attention and your love. Because success in any thing that you do is “loving what you do”.

While writing this, I am being reminded of the past work experiences that I gave-up. My colleagues in the previous companies that I worked with are still working great, they eventually were promoted and enjoy their work. Sometimes, I asked myself and reflect what if I stayed until now, how would it be? But in the end, I realized that the path that I have now is what I have chosen years ago, and I know that by that time I have my reasons why I choose this.

This is me after work, with my hubby and our fur baby-Lucca😽😽

And if you will asked me, am I successful? Well, in my humble opinion, being able to surpass everyday of my life is already a success, and so do you. You are successful in your own way, because it’s you who define your own success!!!
The answer on how to be a successful working wife for me is just living the moment, may you be a working wife, a house wife, a single mom or anyone, YOU ARE YOU!!!. Live the moment, enjoy what do you and always say a prayer because our God above is the only one Who will never judge us successful or still trying hard!

Love lots and cheering for you,
Mrs. Mira Rollenas-Ducusin

10 Tips on How to Adjust to Married life

Hi there, I wish you all the best in your marriage life. I hope it was not so hard for you to adjust in this journey to becoming a wife, welcome to the club! As previously shared to you in my previous blogs, me and my husband just got married this January 2021, and it was great. However, the transition and adjustment period were not easy than I’ve imagined. Way before, I always dream of being a better wife that I could. I’ve listed some of the best habits that I thought I could do to easily adopt and be a better wife, a better version of me.

A week after our wedding, I have realized that there’s a big change in my behavior, my routines and my emotions. And these all were unplanned, I never thought this could be this spontaneous. Maybe because I am an emotional person especially to the people whom I loved the most. I’m sharing some of my tips on this adjustment phase. May these help you even just in a little way, lovelots!

  1. Open-up your feelings to your spouse. One of the most important, aspect in a marriage life is communication. It is a process of sending and receiving information, thus, a two-way process. As an old adage goes, a problem shared is a problem solved. For me, being married gives someone a sense of feeling that you will not be alone anymore as long as you got your other half’s back. So, if you are having hard time on something bring-up the concern no matter how insignificant it is. I remember when I feel so tired from work and I still have to prepare for our dinner. I transformed my frustrations into unpleasant behaviors and mood swings, I don’t like to say it verbally to my husband that I like him to help me with dinner. I keep on nagging and saying that I’m so tired. And that night, we end-up into arguments (I don’t like going back into those times). Then my husband politely asked me “what’s wrong, and asked me how can I help you? Those times made me realized that an open communication is really important to every relationship. Why is it that we find it hard to communicate our feelings? I myself can say that I am afraid of communicating because the things that I will tell my husband may cause him mad or may hurt him, that’s why I rather have them by myself. But this thinking won’t worked, if you want a relief in what you are feeling, open-up your feelings to your spouse. Discuss the things that you want to improve and try working them out together. After that night of heart-to-heart talks, my husband regularly helps me in the household chores. He washes the dishes after our meals, do the laundry, feed our adorable kitten and more other chores. Remember that communication is a two-way process, opening-up your feelings does not only mean that you alone will open-up, encourage your spouse to do the same, and learn to also listen on his/her sentiments.

2. Humble yourself, forgive and forget. Sometimes it’s hard to admit the fact that it is us who caused the fire-up. It’s hard to humble down when your ego is more important than your peace of mind. Let go of your ego and humble yourself. Sometimes a simple “what can I do to make you feel better?” makes a relief. There was a time that I feel that my husband owes me an apology because of a nonsense stuff. I tried to ignore him and to disregard him for a little while, but I realized that I can’t. I can’t let my ego overrule me knowing that our relationship as husband and wife is more important than anything else. In this journey, know that your husband is your ally, and whatever it is that made you angry at, think about it? Is it worth the stress? If not, humble yourself and ask for forgiveness, then forget that nonsensical thing.

Sometimes, forgiving is not an easy thing to do, this requires time and it’s a process. It also varies on the weight of the concern you are taking. As married couple, the two of you is expected to take care of your marriage and take care of each other, that would include avoiding on doing things that will hurt each other. Once you are forgiven, be sincere with it and avoid doing these things again and again, by that how can you be also worth of the forgiveness? As I’ve said humble yourself, being humble is to submit your mistakes and reflect from those, the correction of those mistakes must follow.

3. Always go back to the core of your marriage-your love for each other. This is always my favorite reminder, why you’ve married your spouse in the first place? This is the core of any relationship—your WHYs? Marriage is a sacred sacrament, and everyone should take care of one’s marriage. One of the messages of our wedding guests is that when we have disagreements and challenges, always go back to the reason why we come-up this far. I know all of us are not perfect, for sure as we journey together, we will have more fights together, more disagreements to solve and more nags to say, but before coming-up to a more painful argument, go back to the core of your relationship. What made you in love with your husband?

When I and my husband exchanged wedding gifts to each other, he gave me a camera, I asked him why he came-up with that gift and he told me that he wants us to be reminded on the beautiful memories that we will capture together so that when we get old and our memories can’t hold any longer or if we have any misunderstandings, we can go back to our memories again and again. This way, we will be reminded of our love to each other which is more important than any trial, ego or challenges that we will be taking.

4. Pray for each other. This is the most important tip that anyone should keep. There is a saying that says “A family that prays together, stays forever”, yes because prayer is the most important weapon in everything. Believe that whatever it is that you are going right now, from the adjustment phase in your marriage life to a happy and a better version of you in your marriage life, there should be God being the center of your marriage. It is very important to pray for each other, and to lift up to God everything. Be each other’s prayer warrior especially in this crucial stage of adjustment phase.

Sharing this bible verse for when you pray:

2 He said to them, “When you pray, say: “Father, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come. 3 Give us each day our daily bread. 4 Forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us. And lead us not into temptation.” (Luke 11:2-4)

5. Never give up on your marriage and enjoy the journey together. Marriage life is a lifelong journey, as what you have vowed in the covenant, in sickness and in health ’til death do you part. In this lifelong journey, keep that love burning and enjoy the company with each other. God does not promise us that it will be easy, but for sure it will be worth it! I know, as we journey this together, we will have these challenging times, we just have to keep going and enjoy the journey.

I wish everyone will have a blessed and happy marriage life ahead! Let’s pray for each other and cheer up each other! This is one of the most beautiful verse that reminds us how love conquers above all.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 New International Version

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

This is one of my favorite portrait with my husband ❤ ❤ ❤
I also love this picture of us ❤

Every relationship is beautiful, but ours is my favorite.

Wishing so much love and blessings into your marriage life,

Mrs. Mira Ducusin ❤

Top Honeymoon Destinations near Metro Manila

One of the amazing gift of marriage is to spend your life with the person you love the most. I myself look forward to this date. For the eight years++ of being in a relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend, we’ve tried to reserve ourselves for the right time and we’ve looked forward to a church wedding. We are not perfect couple and just like the other couples we argue, make mistakes, tested through thick and thin and remained firmed against the odds. That’s why we wanted something extra for our honeymoon, however, since it was pandemic, we opted to choose a place away from the city. And the first thought of is something more of nature. But hey, this blog is not about my relationship, hahaha pardon for that long introduction.

Going back to our honeymoon suggestion if you are in the Philippines, and you love nature and like to refresh yourself in a sanctuary just few hours away from Metro Manila, here are my suggestions for you.

  1. Luljetta’s Hanging Gardens and Spa. This place is also nice for nature feels staycation, you will surely love the place being refreshing, known for its spa treatments and relaxing facilities. Have visited this place on April 2017, and we are truly attracted with beauty of the place, it has various amenities . The place is located in mountain resort in Antipolo with breathtaking views of Manila skyline and Laguna Lake, you will be recharged with the peaceful oasis with nothing but your relaxation in mind and body. It has pool, jacuzzi, sauna bath, spa, movie lounge, locker room for your belongings etc. you can view more of its amenities through their website, https://luljettas.com/ . This comes to my mind as I wanted to try their accommodation, way back 2017, we only have the chance to avail the spa services with free welcome snacks hahaha. 😀 However, we were not able to book due to short notice and the place is already fully-booked. For sure, the place is more beautiful these days than 2017.
This was still 2017, I wonder how much it improved this year??
Felt that it is so refreshing in here:)

2. The Greenery. This was the venue of our summer outing and team building in my previous employer. I love the place, very clean and relaxing, and with a lovely infinity pool. That time I said to myself I would love to go back the back with my love ones. The place is located in The Greenery # 80 San Juan St., Rio Vista Subdivision Sabang, Baliwag, Bulacan, 3006, Philippines. However, we were not able to push through this place because of transportation concerns. We find it hard to book for a grab car towards the place, “it’s a no-car problem thing”, maybe if you have your own car to transport you to the place it would be an advantage. To more details through their website, http://thegreenery.ph/

The Greenery ❤
Look at this infinity pool, wanna swim?? Wow!

3. San Rafael River Adventure. Personally, I never have gone to this place but the reviews and pictures in their website tell it all. The place is very refreshing, and ideal for a honeymoon. I have tried to reach their reservations several times but have failed several times too, they have their facebook and messenger were we can reach for booking. We were replied late on our inquiry, the attendant told us that they are also having hard time to attend to a number of customers. Maybe it’s also my fault as I only inquired a week before our scheduled honeymoon. The time the customer service had attended my inquiry it was already fully-booked. Maybe the place is not really for us as of now 🙂 This is their website, for sure we will be delighted to see and visit the place to see it for yourself; http://sanrafaelriveradventure.com/

Photo not mine, grabbed it from the their website. I am eyeing to book this tree house in San Rafael, maybe next time 🙂 ❤
Amazing tree house ❤

4. The Cabin Resorts. This is one of the place that we are also eyeing to see, this is located in San Miguel Bulacan. As their page suggest, this place is an ultimate escape near the metro. Their goal is to provide our guest with the most peaceful escape without traveling too far. I think I just knew the place after various searches over the net. I just wanted those place that are not far from our place. We have a second thought when we knew that the place is a bit pricey. Note that we are also on a budget so we take hold on this and keep on searching for other options. By the way, you can see more of this place through this website; https://www.thecabinresortsph.com/

Wow to this cabin, photo not mine grabbed it from their website 🙂
What a wonderful sunset at the cabin, omg! Wish to experience this, photo not mine 🙂

5. Thunderbird Resorts and Casinos. Finally after several searches over the net, we’ve found a great deal from Thunderbird Resorts and Casinos. I am overjoyed when I found-out that they are on promo. Imagine they are offering a three-days and two-nights accommodation with food and amenities in one. That was a perfect deal for us, the price was for me very worth it for what the place has offered both of us. Me and my husband wanted something relaxing, cozy with panoramic sight of nature, a place that is not far away from the city of Metro Manila and of course within our budget. 😀 Viola! The place is what we were looking for, immediately I texted the reservation numbers in their website and got a confirmation call afterwards, then we proceed to payment. There was also a bonus that my sister and her husband treated us for our honeymoon. So we’ve able to save portion of our budget for other expenses. We were able to avail their “Haven” promo. Thunderbird offers the best amenities not only for relaxation but also for those who love to go and try their luck in the casino. The food is awesome, the pool is spacious and very clean, the rooms are well-maintained, the overall place is wonderful. I would always love to go back to the place with the whole family. See more of their services and promos through their website: https://www.thunderbird-asia.com. This luxury integrated resort is tucked in a serene place in in Eastridge Avenue Binangonan Rizal, a first-class municipality, and surrounded by lush greenery and panoramas of the Manila skyline and Laguna de Bay.

Wow to this place, take me back ❤ Love this place a lot.
My better half, Iloveyousomuch! ❤
Sorry for my short legs, that’s my hubby in the pool sort of figuring out how to float in the water hahahaha 😀

I know, you would love to spend your staycation, honeymoon or weekend gate-away to refreshing and relaxing place. I hope my suggestions above will give you some ideas on your next gate-away. Personally, I would love to explore more of the wonderful places that are hours away from the metro. There are so much more exciting and wonderful places to see and visit. May I know what are your suggestions?

Wishing an amazing and fun-filled gate-away ahead of you,

Mrs. Mira Ducusin ❤

Top 5 Challenges in a DIY Wedding Preparations

Hi there!

I know wedding preparation is a hard thing, and is also time consuming. This is the reason why some bride and grooms choose to have wedding coordinators, but usually costs a bit pricey.

This is the reason why a bride/groom switch to a DIY wedding preparations, however, there are challenges that are usually experienced in a do it yourself (DIY) wedding preparations.

  1. Disagreements on preferences/taste. In a wedding preparation, there will always be differences in preferences and taste between the bride and the groom. Usually a wedding will consider its themes and motif, and in this aspect, there are differences already. Usually the bride would love something romantic and majestic wedding set-up but the groom may prefer to have a simple celebration or vice versa. It varies from person to person, in my case have also experienced this challenge. Our DIY wedding preparation was not an exempt to this one but we managed to surpass this concern. One of the ways to overcome this challenge is to brainstorm with each other on the ideas on hand and if these ideas are SMART and feasible. Remember in the preparation, you should have each other those differences in preferences should be resolved in the onset of the planning. It is also important to consider each others side on why one had come-up to a certain preference. The most important thing is understanding each other as you come-up with a final preferences in each aspect of the wedding planning.
  2. Budget constraints. Budget is truly one of the most answered reasons why challenges arise in a DIY wedding planning. I think not only in a DIY planning but also if you tend to hire a wedding coordinator. It is one of the factors needed to be properly taken into consideration, the budget. Based on personal experience, the most effective way to manage budgeting properly is to have them itemized through a detailed computation through an excel file via computer or documented through a notebook. I would recommend that along the process you will revisit, update and track the progress that you have put into your budgeting aspect. Would love to share our budgeting excel template that helped me and my husband in consideration of our budgeting. We started listing all the particulars that we need to set-up, those were specified accordingly, followed by an allocated budget that is feasible for the particular, then we track how much is the actual cost of that particular, then the last column is the evaluation of cost or savings. From there, you can assess how your budget is doing. You can also adjust from time-to-time those negotiable items vs those non-negotiable ones.
  3. Lack of time management. Time is a factor for any planning and even into its execution. Time management is always the key. Thus, if you lack proper time management even if you got the budget, we will still encountered challenges and pitfalls. It is important not only to consider the budget but also to put a time frame in the execution of those lists in your budgeting. For example, the time frame that you will have your wedding gown be fitted, the purchase of your wedding essentials, the reservation of your wedding reception etc. I still remember in our DIY wedding preparations, my fiance has to stay late in the house just to catch-up with brainstorming and updating, in our case we have to do the planning seriously as we have limited time and have some restrictions due to the pandemic. Time management will measure your ability to weigh the things that should be prioritized and those you can let go. I would also like to add that you should not be complacent while doing your wedding planning, I know you got your Plan A, but you should reserve extra plans on plan b and c for any contingencies.
  4. Non-cooperation of the groom or bride. This one may sound crazy but this is also one of the challenges encountered during a wedding planning. The usual scenario is the groom leaves the decision-making to the bride, or vice versa, however at the end of the execution the other partner will argue on why the choices were like that, like this. It’s very disappointing that arguments happen after all the works were done by the executing partner. This is why it is very important to collaborate with each other on every ideas that each want to put in place in the wedding planning.
  5. Unorganized planning. Organization is a vital role in every planning, like how a movie is made it should start with the organization of the main casts–in a wedding planning the main casts are the bride and groom, and they themselves should be expected to have organized themselves first– their thoughts, actions down to the execution. The planning is the pavement towards the success of every DIY wedding planning. You call it DIY as you do-it-yourself, and you must expect yourself to be present all through it.

Above all, every wedding planning has its pitfalls and downfalls, you just have to carry-on and know that the wedding is just a secondary thing, once a challenge is experienced go back to your primary thing on why in the first place there is a wedding? The primary should be the love that you have for each other, it should outweighs any pitfall, both the bride and the groom should be the each others best ally, and each others support system.

To all soon to be wed bride and groom, I wish you all the best, you can do it! Cheers for a meaningful marriage life ahead!

Hi, this one is our simple reception background, we love to have it customized with our nicknames-Chard and Mira. Do you like the letter cuts too? We got it from the facebook marketplace, you can search all across facebook for your choice but in case you want to get our supplier, you can contact Ms. Maica Angelique Alcantara, here’s her facebook link: https://www.facebook.com/aica.marquez.3

With love and care,

Mrs. Mira Ducusin

Best Place for An Intimate Engagement Proposal

Hi there!

Until now I still cannot contain the happiness that I have that day when my boyfriend for 8 wonderful years proposed to me. That’s an every girls dream– to be married to the man of our dreams. It’s extremely satisfying that moment when he said MARRY ME! Actually he doesn’t asked a question, he just raised a statement saying MARRY ME. It was not as expected as it could be as we are in the midst of pandemic and trying times.

But love will always find its way for us to celebrate this engagement proposal. By the way, let me give you some details of momentous event in our relationship.

It was September 13, 2020, Sunday morning; 2 days before my birthday. Yes September 15 is my 29th birthday. We are in a lockdown that time, but my future-husband had requested me to be with them to have a family dinner that Sunday morning. I wouldn’t be surprised because September 12, is also the birthday of his brother. So all I thought it would be a double celebration over food and chats.

He booked our breakfast in Kaulayaw Coffee somewhere in Antipolo, it’s a wonderful place with a very relaxing ambiance ideal for family gatherings and special events. The place has also an overlooking spot where you can enjoy and refresh in a scenic spot of Antipolo, it’s like having a breakfast in the sky :). I also love the food (I think more of Filipino foods) you can order coffee or shakes at your choice. I cannot remember all the food that we had, I think it’s because I am more excited and filled with the happiness of the engagement proposal.

Part of me was really skeptic on why it seems that there’s something special that day. He requested for his best friend to drive us and use their car. My mother was there, and the wife of his best friend who is also our circle of friends. That time I am wondering why their other friends are not around so I keep on asking, I hope he invited them so that we can have a breakfast together. Without knowing that the other friends are in the restaurant already waiting for us and are preparing a little surprise.

By the way, the proposal was a bit epic. Hahahaha. My boyfriend’s friends are preparing for something surprising, some balloons, and other props were prepared.

However, knowing my boyfriend to be a truly shy type person, and a camera shy; without an element of surprise he directly give to me the flowers and said Marry Me 😀 hahahhaha

His friends were really laughing after all that what they’ve planned has not succeeded. This simple proposal made me cry and made me laugh at the same time. I can see that his friends are still holding the “Will you Marry Me” banner with a little choreography but those were not executed as planned.

We all laughed after all, that was a happy engagement indeed!

My boyfriend already my fiancé that time told me that he don’t want it to be entertaining, he just want it to be true and sincere. ❤ ❤ ❤

That day started our planning towards our wedding day. I will keep you posted what happens next 🙂

By the way, we are always thankful for the support, care and love that our circle of friends have for us. They are truly for keeps. They’re more than family. Me and Richard love you so much guys. Mwaa.

This is the breakfast view, behind our back 🙂 love it. @KaulayawCoffee
Wearing our couple ring and our engagement ring.
Photo not mine, grabbed it from google. This is Kaulayaw Coffee shop, this place is truly amazing.
Photo not mine, truly love the place, location: Kaulayaw Coffee Lower Antipolo
Hey, my hubby got this ring from @P.Zuniga Jewellery, they offer quality and authentic masterpieces. The jewelry store is located at Meycauayan Bulacan. 🙂

Top 10 wedding essentials for bride and groom

Hi there!

My fiancé proposed for an engagement proposal on 13th of September, 2020. If you’re gonna check my blog on “Best Place for An Intimate Engagement Proposal” you will know our story 🙂

But hey, this is not about me hahaha:). This is now about your wedding preparation as I’ve done through it all. We have only 4 months to prepare our wedding, just to let you know it was a pandemic wedding. Philippines, is one of the countries that is hit so hard by the COVID-19 pandemic and up to this writing- April 17, 2021 we are still in an enhanced community quarantine (well I will let you know soon what’s with this set-up). For now let me share to you how we made our DIY wedding preparation into success. So we are talking here of the top 10 wedding essentials, so as a previous bride, these are my picks:
1. YOU, Yourself. Yes you got it, you being the bride/groom play the most important part of this event. Asked yourself how ready are you to settle from a your singlehood to a marriage life. Of course, marriage life is a milestone, this is not a JOKE. Evaluate your readiness towards this milestone. I know its feels very overwhelming to be that the person of your dreams, it just have to take its proper timing. The aspects of your readiness involve–physical, mental, financial, social and even spiritual aspect. We all want to have a marriage life that is happy and successful, and we deserved that, thus, before engaging and saying YES to a man or proposing to your woman, be sure that you are ready for it, 100%.

2. BUDGET. You need to consider your budget, this is your fuel to start you wedding preparation. As you evaluate your budget for this, you will be able to plan which wedding type would you prefer– would it be a church wedding, beach wedding, garden wedding, a civil wedding or whichever you like this will fall on your budget consideration. Here in the Philippines, a usual wedding will cost you around 50k-100k, but if you like to upgrade your preferences that will cost or more.

3. WEDDING CEREMONY VENUE. I would consider this as part of the top 3 since the wedding venue really matters, this is where you will evaluate where are you going to conduct your wedding preparations, and after the wedding ceremony, where are you going to hold your wedding reception? One more thing, you can also assess how accessible is the place for your guests. From there you can decide if the wedding venue is best fit for your wedding day.

4. WEDDING REQUIREMENTS. Prior to your big day is a process of complying to the wedding requirements. Usually the wedding requirements between a civil wedding ceremony and church wedding ceremony has almost the same, but church wedding ceremony usually have more requirements than civil wedding. First you will have to process your Certificate of No Marriage (CENOMAR) which you can request from Philippine Statistics Authority (PSA) which costs 210 per copy last 2020. Next to it, we also have to process our marriage license in the City Hall, but prior to marriage license issuance, one should have undergone some seminars on family planning and counselling. In our case as we preferred to have our church wedding, there were needed requirements like Baptismal Certificate, Confirmation Certificate, Pre-cana seminars and wedding banns.

5. GROOM & BRIDE’S ATTIRE. Every bride or groom has different preferences on how they like to dress-up during their wedding. In my own experience, I borrowed my wedding gown from my sister in law. She have her own wedding gown during their wedding, and we have the same fit that’s why I’ve managed to recycle and reuse her wedding gown, it is still good as new. You can also rent your wedding dress if you like to. There are lots of available  gowns and suit for rent, one of the recommendations that I can attest to its affordability and quality is Gardini Fashion Center, however they offer most of the essentials for the groom, you can visit their facebook page through this link https://www.facebook.com/Gardini-Fashion-Center-166025710081467/. It offers variety of coat, tuxedo, barong etc. they will provide according to your taste. For the wedding gowns, there are lots of available gowns that you can purchase brand new in Divisoria-Tabora Market with a very affordable prices.

6. BOUQUET AND BOUTONNIERE. Bouquet and boutonnieres also add colors to a wedding, especially when blended on the themes & motif of your wedding. But these should not be too costly as these can be a do-it-yourself thing. Here in the Philippines, we have varieties of flowers available for sale in bundles or piece in Dangwa, somewhere in main the Manila City. Lots of sellers are offering fresh flowers, flower arrangement — bouquet and boutonniere in a very affordable prices without compromising the quality of the flowers. One of my recommendation is the seller Ate Gene Managuit. She has a stall in Dangwa, you can also coordinate with her through her facebook page @Gene Managuit. For sure Ate Gene will be really happy and welcoming to deal with you.

7. WEDDING ACCESSORIES. Accessories are also must haves in a wedding ceremony, especially if you preferred to have a church wedding there are essential accessories that you will have to prepare. In a Catholic church wedding, these essentials include veil, arras, bible, candle, chord, ring & arras holder. I think this varies from the type of ceremony. For the wedding essentials, I am recommending the crafts of Ejeksy’s creations

They cater all bridal accessories, center piece, bouquets, wristets, bridal hoops, flower girl baskets and corsages, etc. 

9. INVITATION & SOUVENIRS. Invitation maybe not a necessity for other but still a necessity for me. This serves as an official reminder for your big day, that your guests may save the date of your wedding day. One way to upgrade a wedding invitation is by making it digital form or a form of save the date video which you can send easily through social media accounts.  Souvenirs on the other hand should be noted as your sponsors and guests would love to receive a souvenir/token for them to be reminded being part of your special event. 

10. WEDDING RING. Of course the ring, how can we forget this. Your wedding ring is a symbol of love, honor, glory and beauty that lets everyone know you are taken by man in a sacred sacrament of matrimony. As you vow your “I DO”, in sickness and in health, ’til death do us part—it follows you wear the RING into your ring finger. 

For me these are my top 10 picks, how about you? Let me know your thoughts, I would also love to know some topics that you want me to share with you.

Keep in touch with love and blessings,

Mrs. Mira Ducusin ❤

Our Wedding ceremony venue at National Shrine of Our Lady of Fatima, Marulas Valenzuela City.
Love our wedding invitation, thanks to @The Lucky Cat PH, to Ms. Belle Casin.
My wedding dress and bouquet 🙂